Anticipating our family’s yearly/mandatory viewing of A Christmas Carol, even though I am Jewish, I have been reflecting on its base concept; it is not what has happened in our lives but the meaning we make of it that makes all the difference.
Everyone that comes to see me begins their process by simply being asked their mother’s name, then father’s and lastly sibling’s. As the names are spoken it is as if the client is tasting something in their mouth; its texture, aroma, shape being examined. Maybe you see the sweet smile of a favorite chocolate, the pucker of a sourball. As the interview continues the client speaks of their life experiences, 90% of which always focuses on the difficulties, struggles, hurdles of their lives.
In A Christmas Carol the holidays of the past are relived ending with Christmas future, “I see a crutch standing in the corner without an owner”. But Scrooge awakens to find it is Christmas morning, the future has not yet come and in the bright light there is the awakening, the positive, affirmative truth that he was indeed loved, is lovable and that, “Mankind was my business. The common welfare was my business; charity, mercy, forbearance, benevolence, were all my business. The dealings of my trade were but a drop of water in the comprehensive ocean of my business!”
Every person comes to office because they want a better ending. Excellent! It is when we finally become sick and tired of being sick and tired that we are ready for change. As dreadful as the past may have been, each person sitting in front of has obviously survived it, learned from it and now only needs to understand how to utilize their history for the better.
Well wishes, affirmative memories and Happy Holidays.
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