Tune Up Self-confidence

*Individual results may vary with hypnosis and are dependent on many variables including the client’s attitude, follow-through, adherence to the program and personal health and history; some issues may require a medical referral and supervision.  If required we will be pleased to assist you in obtaining a referral.

Have you ever felt as if you’re held back from being successful? Have you ever had a mental block or feeling of helplessness while working, writing, or completing a task? Hypnosis may be the answer for you.

Hypnosis is an achieved state of awareness facilitated by a Hypnotist. It is very similar to a guided daydream. Always awake, aware and in control, the client hears every word being said. However, the subconscious side of the mind (which is not the conscious, processing, analytical side) is the part that is listening. The subconscious is where emotions and feelings reside. Accessing those feelings is like plucking the string of a violin and the vibrations are felt throughout the instrument. The person being hypnotized might be guided to follow these vibrations to their very source.

A few months ago a man came in for a Hypnosis session. He had previously come in a few years ago. The first question I always ask is “So, what brings you to my chair?” His answer was quite different and rather enlightening. “I need a tune up. People shouldn’t need to have something wrong to see you, they somethimes come in periodically for a tune-up”.

The man explained that his consulting business had hit a snag; the sophisticated economic forecasting programs he had designed were not performing correctly. He discussed various aspects of business, economic indicators, effects of the current world situation and the resulting volatility of today’s global economy. He explained the exterior elements affecting his software’s performance and his resulting feelings of inadequacy. These feelings were his internal reaction to external forces and Hypnosis might be a way to assist him in achieving more effective responses.

The man’s feelings of inadequacy resulted in his inability to resolve the software problem. His software’s failure became a signal that he too was a failure. Thoughts of failure are like a cascade of negative, self critical, deprecating feelings – “I’m dumb, I can’t do anything right, this always happens to me, I’m just a failure, I’m stupid, I’ll never make enough money, I should have chosen another profession.” The man was unable to focus on a solution so he internalized this problem as proof of personal failure. The result of this avalanche of self-doubt is like being stuck in mud up to the knees, unable to move. Why couldn’t this man move? What did he feel inside that virtually paralyzed him and kept him from simply recalibrating the software?

Through Hypnosis the man followed the feeling of failure he was experiencing through a pathway to an earlier time. He remembered feeling the same emotion when he was very young and an older kid was beating him up. He felt terrorized and frightened every time he walked home from school. One day the bigger boy grabbed him and he felt helpless. It was the same feeling he had about his software model of not being able to control the outcome of what was occurring.

The man was now able to see that moment from an adult perspective. He was not badly hurt but he did feel helpless, unable to control his personal safety and future. He connected that feeling from the past to the current moment of helplessness. Seeing that past event now from the perspective of an adult, all grown up, no longer a young boy, enabled him to understand that was in control his current situation, he simply needed to take action. A week later he returned to report that his business had improved, he had made some adjustments in the software calculations and the program was functioning quite well.*

The client reiterated his initial comment. “People shouldn’t need to have something wrong to see you, they should come in periodically for a tune-up.” Maybe people should know that they might benefit from coming in for a regular personal adjustment.