Relationships… the tyranny of expectation

*Individual results may vary with hypnosis and are dependent on many variables including the client’s attitude, follow-through, adherence to the program and personal health and history; some issues may require a medical referral and supervision.  If required we will be pleased to assist you in obtaining a referral.

slider_relationWhat is expected from others in our relationships is filled with the explosive ingredient of expectation and a potential blast of disappointment.

Family, teachers and friends, our universe of relationships, is held together with this glue of expectation.

When our expectations are met we might feel satisfied, gratified, whole, important; validated in many ways. When disappointed we may feel angry, sad, frustrated, valueless, unloved or unworthy.

Hypnosis is a mental state of heightened awareness of inner thinking; a technique potentially enabling one to perhaps more clearly, dispassionately, understand the glue of their significant relationships. If we knew that the glue was bad it might be is easier to accept that unforeseen circumstances intruded into the relationship; it was no one’s fault. Perceive that the other person did not hold tight enough than perhaps you were treated unfairly; anger may be the resulting feeling. If you came unglued than maybe it was your fault; quilt is the feelings response. Frustration occurs if you both struggle to hold on but then the bond breaks and you slip away.

Truly understanding what our expectations of others and ourselves were, the validity of those expectations and what caused the bond to break can potentially create a positive rather than negative learning experience. The phrase, not my fault, has been spoken to me enumerable times over my career. Each time there is a profound sense of relief from the speaker; as if a large anchor had finally been released and the self set free.

It takes a lot of expectation to create disappointment. Hypnosis for relationships is focused on attempting to enabling self awareness of the expectations brought to relationships, their validity and the resulting positive learning experiences.

Whenever the good is found in our past we hopefully are able to change our lives, become enabled to close, open or find the doorway to more satisfactory future outcomes.*