Tyranny of Expectation

*Individual results may vary with hypnosis and are dependent on many variables
including the client’s attitude, follow-through and adherence to the program. Certain issues or concerns may require a medical referral before any session in hypnosis.

Family, teachers and friends, our universe of relationships, is held together with the glue of expectation; how well the glue sticks results in our world view and perception of self.

When our expectations are met, we feel satisfied, gratified, whole, important, valuable; validated in many ways.  When disappointed we feel angry, sad, frustrated, valueless, unloved; perhaps unworthy.  What is expected from others in our relationships and to them from ourselves is filled with the explosive ingredient, expectation, that can result in a blast of disappointment.

Hypnosis is a mental state of heightened awareness of inner thinking; a technique potentially enabling one to more clearly, dispassionately, understand the glue of their significant relationships.  If we knew that the glue was bad than it is easier to accept that unforeseen circumstances intruded into the relationship; it was no one’s fault.  Perceive that the other person did not hold tight enough than perhaps you were treated unfairly; anger may be the resulting feeling.  If you came unglued than maybe it was your fault; quilt is the feelings response.  Frustration occurs if you both struggle to hold on but then the bond breaks and you slip away.

Truly understanding what our expectations of others and ourselves were, the validity of those expectations and what caused the bond to break can create a positive rather than negative learning experience.  The phrase, not my fault, has been spoken to me enumerable times over my career.  Each time there is a profound sense of relief from the speaker; as if a large anchor had finally been released and the self set free.

It takes a lot of expectation to create disappointment.  Hypnosis for relationships is focused on enabling self awareness of the expectations brought to relationships; their validity and the resulting positive learning experiences.

Whenever the good is found in our past we are able to change our lives, we become enabled to close, open or find the doorway to more satisfactory future outcomes.

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