Robert Collier is a certified hypnotist at Psychotherapy and Hypnosis Services, Oakland Park, Florida providing hypnosis for smoking, stress, relationships and a wide range of issues for over twenty-five years;. Rob is certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists, Banyan Center for Training and the Omni Hypnosis Center. Free consultations are available, 954-938-8000
The cellphone commercial, “Can you hear me now?”, always made me smile. The phrase reminded me of a time in Spain watching an irate tourist, feeling ignored, shouted loudly across the room to the waiter, OIGA ME! (HEAR ME).
“Do you hear me” is frequently the core of relationship issues with a spouse, partner, or business associate. It is not a language or vocabulary issue, it is about intimacy, trust, anger, self-esteem; insecurities, and old patterns of behavior inhibiting the ability to understand the other person.
Imagine that emotion is connected to memory as if it were a recipe written in a book and every time you take it from the shelf, open the page it’s the same formula and you get the same result.
People speak of being triggered, something said, a look, a tone, and wham, from a place deep inside the subconscious a memory flashes together with its connected emotion, and kaboom! Like every other behavior we have practiced over time, the reaction is not cognitive thought driven but impulse only, like swinging a bat, jumping rope, riding a bike, or slamming on the break while driving the car; reaction only.
Hypnosis for relationship communication is focused on bringing to light those emotions that are hidden beneath the surface which inhibit the ability to hear the other person and understand what is trying to be communicated. Negative patterns of behavior that may be affecting relationships like jealousy, anger, or control issues cause conflict in their lives.
Disconnecting the old memory from the emotion essentially reprograms the subconscious mind and allows individuals to develop healthier patterns of behavior and improved relationships.
Hypnosis is not a magic cure for relationship problems, it takes time, effort, and commitment to see results. It is both a neurological thought/emotion correction as well as a behavior pattern development that must take place.
Learning both how not to react and how to react is the goal.